Lately, I’ve been noticing that my mood is greatly impacted by the people around me. If people treat me well, I feel good. But if they don’t or they fail to acknowledge me, it feels like a personal attack. But often, this isn’t the case at all. While it would be nice, it’s nobody’s responsibility to engage with me and that’s okay considering it isn’t my responsibility to engage with everyone I encounter. So how do I stop putting myself down when other people aren’t lifting me up? I have began learning to stop caring.
Create Your Own Energy
See, in order to not be affected by the way people treat us, we have to create our own, untouchable energy that can’t be dwindled by the people around us. It’s difficult to explain, but in essence we have to create our own sureness within ourselves of who we are and what we deserve. Picture that this sureness is energy that represents our mood and confidence in ourselves. We have to ensure that this sureness and energy can only be increased when people treat us well, but cannot diminish when people fail to treat us well. It’s like there has to be a minimum and other people can only increase it from the minimum but cannot decrease it below the minimum of what we ourselves create.
Maintain That Energy
Now, in order to keep this energy at the minimum that we have set for ourselves and not allow other people to let the energy drop below the minimum, we have to stop caring. This means stop caring how people are treating you and be sure enough in yourself. Everyone’s here to have fun and nobody is obligated to like you or be your friend. And, like I said before, this is fine since you aren’t obligated to like everyone and be their friend. So, let people think what they want and just focus on having fun yourself. This is what I’ve been practicing lately and it’s seriously life changing and helping me be happier in who I am even if I’m alone.